Tina & Tilly · for girls 11 to 14
For girls with big feelings and busy minds.
A gentle, faith-filled, screen-free way to help your daughter calm down, focus, and grow. Drawn by a real teen, for real girls.
Workshops run in Austin and online. No app to download, no login.
The declaration
Stop telling her who she isn't.
Start telling her who she is. The world calls her names, and some days she repeats them about herself. These are the words to say back, out loud.
- "ungrateful"Grateful
- "lazy," "bored"Imaginative
- "irresponsible"Responsible
- "mean"Loving
- "weak"Strong
You do not have to fix her.Tell her the truth about her, out loud, until she can say it herself.
The counterfeit
The world sells her a fix. Likes, followers, stuff. None of it tells her the truth.
A choice is not her identity
She will make an irresponsible choice. Work on the choice. Keep telling her the truth.
Feelings are weather
Judged. Embarrassed. Ashamed. Those pass over her. They are not what she is made of.
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them."Genesis 1:27, KJV
Workshops
The Petty Powers Villain Lab
Your daughter takes something that annoyed her this week and turns it into a ridiculous supervillain. The room laughs. Then she works out what she could have done instead.
She goes home able to name what bugged her without letting it run her whole day. That is the whole point, and she gets there by laughing, not by being told.
- 90 minutes. Nothing to read first, nothing to bring.
- Girls 11 to 14. Middle school and early high.
- Austin or online. Churches, co-ops, and schools can host one.
Dates are being set now. Join the list and you get them before they go public.
For girls 11 to 14. Educational entertainment, not therapy. Hosting a workshop does not transfer a license to run it independently.
Busy Brain
When the day gets big, start here.
Press play, close your eyes, and breathe with the sound. It is short, and it ends. Then she gives the big feeling to God and opens her journal. The screen turns itself off in her hand.
Meet the girls
Two friends, two different busy minds.
Tina and Tilly are freshmen at a new high school. One talks when she is nervous. One goes quiet. Both are learning to use their GIFTS™, with God's help.
Tina the spark
Bright, fast, and kind. Her mind has forty windows open at once. She is learning to focus on one small thing, and to give her worries to God.
Tilly the anchor
Quiet, thoughtful, and brave in her own way. She is learning that God made the real her on purpose, and that she is worth letting out.
From a real girl's sketchbook
Jolie drew them first.
Dee's daughter Jolie dreamed up Tina and Tilly in pencil. Here is the fun part: her sketch, then the same character brought into color.
Drawn by a real teen, not a computer. Jolie sketched Tina and Tilly when she was 14. She is 15 now, and she is the illustrator of the books. The color is just a quick preview while we build. The art is hers.
How it works
One short story. One small practice.
About 5 minutes a day. She reads a short story, makes a choice, tries one small thing, then writes or doodles. No screens. No nagging.
Who she is
GIRLS™
Grateful. Imaginative. Responsible. Loving. Strong.
True right now, because God made her that way. A hard day does not change it.
How she responds
GIFTS
Grace. Imagine. Focus. Thank. Share.
5 moves for a hard moment. She already does these. Her GIFTS grow as she practices.
Story peek
Take a peek inside.
Tap a card to meet each girl, then flip through Day 1 of the free Tina & Tilly journal.
Two girls. One brand‑new school.
Tina got to the new school early and could not stop talking. Across the hall, Tilly kept her eyes down. Tina sat right down next to her. "This seat taken? Cool. I'm Tina." Tilly almost said nothing. Then she said, "Tilly." It was small. But it was a start.
The science class moment
In science, Tina raised her hand, mixed up two words, and a couple of kids laughed. Her face went hot. She wanted to disappear under the desk for the rest of her life.
What would you do?
- A) Decide you are bad at science and never raise your hand again.
- B) Tell yourself, "Everybody messes up. Let it go," and try again tomorrow.
- C) Get mad at the kids who laughed.
One thing I can let go of today
One thing I can let go of today is ______________________.
A bad moment is not a bad you. Tomorrow is new.
These are the real pages. Tap any page to read Day 1 free and print it tonight.
For grown-ups
Made for the mom who is "done" by bedtime.
If your daughter melts down, overthinks, or shuts down, this gives her a calm, faith-filled, screen-free way to handle it. Especially helpful for girls who struggle with attention, anxiety, friendship, big feelings, or feeling different.
- No new subscription, no app to download.
- Screen-free practice, with a calm doorway to start.
- Faith woven in gently, never preachy.
- Educational entertainment, not therapy.
Free: the Tina & Tilly Day 1
Print-at-home sample pages to try with your daughter tonight. No email needed.
Read the free Day 1Join the email list for book releases, free pages, free resources, workshops and events.
For grown-ups only. Personal household use only.
Tina & Tilly: New Beginnings
A social-skills workbook for girls 11 to 14. Tina and Tilly start 9th grade at a new school, and your daughter works through 30 real challenges about friendship, courage, and knowing who she is. Print only, so she can write on it.
There is a Parent Companion Guide too. Same chapters, written for you, with the fuller Scripture and the words to use when she comes home upset.
Want to know the day it launches? Join the list above.
Your purchase gives back
Buying a book helps a family.
Tina & Tilly supports family-based charities through the Founded on Faith Fund at the National Christian Foundation. When a girl grows, a family is helped too.
Our story
A mom and her daughter, building this together.
Faith Focus Haven™ started at home. Dee Patience wanted a gentle, faith-filled, screen-free way to help girls handle big feelings and busy minds. Her daughter Jolie drew the very first Tina and Tilly. So we are building it the same way we hope girls will grow, one small, brave step at a time, with God's help.
Tina and Tilly were drawn by a real teen. Jolie was 14 when she sketched them. She is 15 now, and she is the illustrator of the books.
About the author
Dee Patience
An Austin mom, brand strategist, and faith-based creator. Dee built Faith Focus Haven with her daughter Jolie, to give girls the calm, faith-filled, screen-free help she wanted for her own.
Questions
What is Tina & Tilly?
The short answers, for grown-ups deciding if this is right for their girl.
What is Tina & Tilly?
Tina & Tilly is a Christian social-skills workbook series for girls 11 to 14. Tina and Tilly start 9th grade at a new school, and your daughter works through 30 real challenges about friendship, courage, and knowing who she is. There is a free calm tool called Busy Brain for when her brain gets loud, and a Parent Companion Guide written for you.
What is the GIRLS declaration?
GIRLS stands for Grateful, Imaginative, Responsible, Loving, Strong. It is who a girl already is, made in God's image. It is not a list she earns. Parents say it over her, out loud, until she can say it herself. Her GIFTS grow with practice. Who she is does not change.
Who is it for?
Girls 11 to 14, middle school and early high, and the moms who want a gentle, faith-filled way to help. It fits the girl who is lonely, awkward, or shrinking, and the one who struggles with friendship, big feelings, or feeling different. Educational entertainment, not therapy.
Is it Christian?
Yes. Faith is woven in gently and never preachy. The GIFTS habit starts with grace, and the journal uses short, memorable Scripture (KJV). It is made to feel the way faith does at home, warm and everyday.
Is it really screen-free?
Yes. The books and journal are print only. The one screen, Busy Brain, is a short, eyes-closed calm tool that ends and hands her back to the paper journal. The screen turns itself off in her hand.
Who makes it?
Faith Focus Haven is Dee Patience, an Austin mom and faith-based creator, and her daughter Jolie. The characters were drawn by her daughter Jolie, a real teen who sketched Tina and Tilly at 14 and is the illustrator of the books. A portion of every sale supports family charities through the Founded on Faith Fund at the National Christian Foundation.
What is a good Christian book for a tween girl with anxiety?
Tina & Tilly is made for this. Tilly is a girl who feels anxious and different and learns confidence. The GIFTS habit helps her give worries to God, and the free Busy Brain calm tool helps when her brain won't switch off. Gentle faith, screen-free, for girls 11 to 14.
What helps a girl who can't focus or finish anything?
Tina is that girl, bright and creative but scattered. The daily GIFTS habit teaches her to focus on one small thing and follow through, in short story-led steps, not a worksheet. For girls 11 to 14, screen-free, with faith woven in.
What is a good book for a girl who feels left out or different?
Tina & Tilly are two girls who feel unseen, one too loud, one too quiet, and learn they are made on purpose. The stories teach friendship, spotting toxic friends, and finding identity in how God sees her. Best for girls 11 to 14.
What are good screen-free activities for middle-school girls?
Faith Focus Haven runs the Petty Powers Villain Lab workshop and makes screen-free, faith-filled social-skills workbooks for girls 11 to 14. They give a girl a real, values-rooted thing to do off the screen, plus free print-at-home tools.